Why is it that everyone talks about baby milestones but no one talks about mom milestones? This question popped into a WhatsApp chat with my cousin. We chat almost every day now since our babies are one month apart (her first and my third). For the first time this week, she left the house and met up with a couple of other new moms for a park playdate. She sat on the ground without any support getting down and managed to get up on her own with baby girl in her arms. She also fed and changed her diaper at the park. It’s not often talked about but these little wins are HUGE!
Being a mom is hard. Being a first-time mom is a shock to the system only made harder if you’ve had a rough pregnancy and/or delivery and recovery. Oh and let’s throw a pandemic into the mix too.
New mom self care is so often overlooked in favor of baby. Consider the frequent visits to the pediatrician as compared to mom’s one 6-week postpartum visit that most often lasts a whopping 5 minutes. But mama, you matter. And so without further ado, here are some tips for you new Raleigh moms looking to take care of yourself and build your mama village.
Mommy and Me Stroller Strides Workout - I joined FIT4MOM after baby #1 and it was a game-changer. It introduced me to some amazing moms who were all either going through the same thing or had been there and could support me through those crazy days. It gave me a good workout, some Vitamin D, and a routine.
WakeMed Hospitals Birth and Family Classes - A variety of classes for new and expectant parents can help answer all those questions you have as a new mom and introduce you to other families. Information has always been key to alleviating my own anxiety.
Triangle Area Parenting Support - This non-profit organization aims to connect, inform and empower parents by facilitating inclusive, research-based, non-judgemental support programs.
HER Health Collective - This dynamic social community brings together moms from all over the triangle and offers a wide range of women’s health experts, mom’s nights in and out, family playdates, book clubs, and more.
Emerald Doulas - With a variety of new mom groups for every type of family, Emerald Doulas comes highly recommended and postpartum doulas can provide some much-needed mom time.
It can be challenging to find time and ways for self care as a new mom and they don’t have to be big. Stick baby in the stroller and go for a walk with a friend (or even just a favorite playlist), grab a cup of coffee, pass baby off to your partner/friend/neighbor and read a book or catch the latest episode of Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist (if you haven’t seen this, go watch it now. We’ll wait). Whatever fills your cup. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else.
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